Merriam Webster defines integrity as “the quality of being honest and fair or the state of being complete or whole.” What wife would not want this for her husband?
In this chapter Stormie defines integrity as
“Not what you appear to be when all eyes are on you. It’s who you are when no one is looking. It’s a level of morality below which you never fall, no matter what’s happening around you. It’s a high standard of honesty, truthfulness, decency, and honor that is never breached. It’s doing for others the way you would want them to do for you.” (The Power Of A Praying Wife, page 117).
My husband says what he means and means what he says. He doesn’t play games. I really love that about him. As a woman, sometimes I try and read into things that he says to me, but it turns out, he doesn’t have ulterior motives. His yes means yes and his no means no. That is a huge blessing. He doesn’t leave me guessing.
My husband is a teacher and one of his jr. high students told her dad that my husband was her favorite teacher. Her dad asked her why. She said it was because he was fair. If he said that he would give them a failing grade if they did something and they did it, he gave them a failing grade. It didn’t matter who the student was. He doesn’t play favorites.
One thing Stormie writes about it how her husband has taken stands against things he knew were wrong and how much it cost him. Because my husband works in Christian education, I’m sure he doesn’t come up against this as much as men who work in secular jobs. But my husband is very familiar with God’s Word and if God’s word says something is wrong, he will take a stand against it, even if that means people in the Christian community think he’s a weirdo. The jabs and ridicule by people, even Christians sometimes, is worth it because he knows that he’s doing what God wants him to do and that’s enough for him.
“The Bible says, ‘The righteous man walks in integrity; his children are blessed after him’ (proverbs 20:7). Whether my children fully recognize it or not, they will receive a heritage from their father’s adherence to the principles of high moral integrity. There are blessings they will enjoy because of the kind of man he is. I pray they will pass those on to their children.” (The Power Of A Praying Wife, page 118)
I have already seen the blessings of my husband’s integrity in my son’s life. Lately I have overheard him teaching our son that he needs to be a man of his word. He is only three years old, but I know that every time my husband reminds him, he is planting seeds in my son’s heart that will help him grow into a man of integrity.
“Integrity happens in the heart. Therefore, being a man of integrity is something your husband must CHOOSE to do on his own. But you can prayerfully help him fight the enemy that seeks to snare him, blind him, and keep him from making that decision. Even when he makes the right choice, there will be a negative reaction to it in the realm of evil. Your prayers can help shield him from anything that causes him to doubt and waver, and give him strength to do what’s right- even when no one’s looking.” (The Power of A Praying Wife, page 119)